It is hard to meeting singles in Vancover so first dates are very important. Both of you will be nervous so chances are things won’t be perfect. However there are a few common mistakes that can be a real turn off to both men and women. Here are some common first date mistakes to try and avoid:
* Being Late: Because both of you are going to be nervous it is not a good idea to be late. This can make someone think you don’t care one way or the other about the date or worse that they have been stood up. Being late can sometimes be unavoidable so even if you think you will be just a few minutes late a quick call or text just to say “I’m on my way” will go a long way in avoiding any anger or resentment.
* Being Chatty: Many of us can talk endlessly when we are nervous and this can make the other person feel unimportant and neglected. If you do tend to talk a lot when nervous try to concentrate on asking questions instead of making statements. This way you are showing an interest in your date and trying to get to know them. Although being chatty might be perfectly harmless it can make the other person think you are self centred. Take a deep breath and make sure you have a conversation not a tirade about your interests or yourself.
* Being Touchy Feely: Most of us know about boundaries and therefore it is best to keep your hands to yourself on a first date. It is okay to guide someone through a doorway with your hand on the small of their back or casually touch someone’s arm if you laugh, etc. However beyond this type of contact many people will feel uncomfortable. At the end of the date if it seemed things went well a warm embrace and kiss on the cheek will let them know you enjoyed yourself without being presumptuous you are expecting something more to take place.
* Drinking: Alcohol can help put people at ease but too much alcohol can only lead to embarrassment. A glass of wine or two over dinner is romantic, shooters at the bar is not. Be careful to stay in control and avoid having too many drinks. This way you will be more yourself.
When you do meet singles in Vancouver these few tips will help you avoid making a major mistake that could jeopardize your relationship.
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